Chapter 8: 'Rejection is the real deal. WTF do I do now?!'

Rejection is insane. Yes I know! This article is going to be for both guys and girls, yup. I'll do my best! So the thesis for this post? I guess it's 'What a relationship really is, how to deal with the stab in (your) heart, and how to take it out without dying and heal in the end!'.  

Did you just go through a breakup? I encourage you to read this article step-by-step then! For example, if you are still 'healing', do not proceed to step #4 ;) 

#1) <3 <3  Love is....

Okay, everyone has their own definition of Love. Love is does not have a manual. My writings are only opinion, but hopefully good advice. We gain Love through experience. Love should be attainted through Loving yourself first! There in no way you can emotionally take in another person for a relationship if you're insecure. Love who you want. Even if gender, religion, family, age, class, or abilities differ. BUT be realistic about it. For example, numerous divorces take play from financial strain. If you're planning on marrying one day, but know deep down 'this is not going to work', REALLY consider how much hell will be waiting down the road. Love conquers all but in certain situations, it really will not last. 

NEVER mistake dependence, narcissism, sex, pressure (e.g. I have to be married by 22!), or loneliness for Love! 

So now I'm asking you. "What is YOUR definition of Love?" 
*I think this'll look great in your journal, a little doodle, or even a sign for your wall! ;) 
I welcome all who are willing to share :) 

#2) <---<-3----<<  I'm Enjoying Love 

Love is a journey. Enjoy it! Everything will fall into play like it is supposed to. You cannot control destiny, even if you look it in the eye and even think about it. Anything you do, is supposed to happen. 99.9% of the time, your first Love will NOT be your last. It always sounds romantic (especially to the ladies...) that you will be marrying your first Love. Don't think that, really. Have fun! Go on group dates, remember your favorite dates, find what you Love about your person. 

#3) </3 Save me, I'm Drowning

In person, in text, over the phone....It sucks! Cry. Do not visit them! Don't even look at them. Instead of seeing someone that is not a part of you anymore, go visit your friends and family!  Surround, Surround, Surround. And delete everything physically possible! Journal, Facebook relations, gifts, contact lists, photos, you get it! SHRED SHRED SHRED! You're going to be so happy surrounding yourself with people who automatically take you for who you are. They are saving you! You'll always be thanking them--for saving you from drowning. 

Via. 'Everybody has a Brain'

Best (and truly tried) Healing Activities: 

1. Bonfire! 

Do this even if it's by yourself! Crack out your fav snacks (in my case Redbull, exotic chocolate....) and set fire to all your so-called Love poems, letters, preferably in a fire pit. And please comply with local law! Who doesn't Love fire?! And the evidence is all gone! 

2. Service!

You think your life sucks? Well, someone out there has it a lot worse. So do something really sweet for them and be by their side. And you guys are going to be there for each other. You will feel so enlightened that you are lifting weight off another person's shoulders. Keep seeing them! :) 

3. Stay Single if Possible!

Enjoy what was not possible before! Also, it is not always a good idea to immediately jump into a relationship right after one was put to an end! It's time to take care of yourself and have fun!! 

4. Just laugh! 

I am not joking. Even if you pretend you're laughing (Like saying AhahahahaHAHAHA!) You're triggering a gland in your chest. It releases endorphins! So laugh the night away! Watch some wicked youtube videos! Here is my current fav! (Invisible Drive-Thru Prank)

#4) <3! I'm just so, so....HAPPY! 
You're healed! And you gained more experience! Experience set aside, ALWAYS remember how you felt! This will be the only thing you will truly take away with you!
What qualities can a potential partner NEVER have now? What were some of your mistakes in the relationship? (Surprisingly many people skip this step!) What are YOUR biggest strengths that make you an awesome catch as a significant other?  

Here are some words of wisdom that have caught my eye while I was writing this article: 

"We Accept the Love we Think we Deserve".

------from "The Perks of Being a Wallflower"

I think this is cute! Credit: 'Unicorn Kisses' tumblr

Experience really does make you a better individual,


------Temo

P.S. Did you notice that I capitalized each word that said 'Love'?